What about gravity?

I don't understand it.

Apparently no one does. The mystery is plain. Things attract each other. Fine. The sun attracts the earth, the earth attracts the moon, fine, we can accept that without thinking too much.

It is when I think about it down at particle size that I run into incomprehension. Or even cricket ball size - anything small enough for me to suddenly 'see' it. Take two marbles. Each attracting the other an equal amount. Why would they come together at all? They'd surely cancel each other out?

So it only works with inequalities? When a bigger meets a smaller then they come together? The bigger 'swallowing' or 'absorbing' the smaller ?

How's that work, then? There's this big thing 'sucking' all around itself. A sphere, 'sucking'. It 'sucks' a smaller sphere which is similarly 'sucking' all around itself, but with less 'suck'.

Now when they join they don't become one sphere. No. They become two joined spheres with a shape that represents that - like a snowman's head on a round snowman's body, perhaps.

So the extra 'suck' contributed by the small sphere to the large sphere should be demonstrated more on that side, shouldn't it?

Is that the way it works? Where there's more mass you get more 'suck', more gravity?

I think it is. The equator has more gravity than the poles because the world is thicker there. And centrifugal force is greater which counters the gravity to some extent.